A lot of married couples find themselves stuck in a rut about the state of their sex life. The feeling of being stuck is an expected phase in any long-term relationship, especially in one that seals the deal in terms of monogamy. It has been said that when the fires of passion die down, what is left of it are the embers that would keep the love warm. Fire would represent the hot passionate sex you used to engage in at every opportunity, and the embers would be the deep friendship and companionship that you only share.
Though it may be a comforting thought that love can stay warm, isn’t it more satisfying to prolong the desire you have had for each other? Besides, it would help keep yourselves stay married if you keep yourselves attracted to each other.
While it is recommended for couples to engage in adventurous bedroom antics and devices, some couples insist that they experience difficulty in relaxing with these things. If you tried these antics and still find yourself in a similarly awkward situation with your mate, you need to reassess the closeness between you and your partner.
For your sex life to thrive, you need to remain in contact with your partner and not just through your body, but also in your mind and heart. Do you believe that the common interests that you used to share, remain? One factor for losing touch with your husband or wife is differing interests. Hobbies and interests define an aspect of your personality, and they can draw you closer to someone with whom you can share it or pull you apart from someone who cannot understand it. That is why affairs happen in the country club, office, gym and in other places where a good deal of time is spent.
Having a common interest with your husband or wife will guarantee that there will still be a driving force to pull you together, especially when boredom kicks in. Car collection, contemporary literature, politics, current events, wakeboarding, hiking, action movies or computer games, and more can be any of the interests that you can talk about and do together.
If you do not share your partner’s love, for instance, of baseball or quilting, it would help if you make an effort to be involved in your partner’s activities. Your husband or wife will appreciate your desire to be closer to him/her through interests and hobbies.
When you do something fun together, your bond will be tighter, and intimacy will follow suit. Remember that your ultimate goal is to revive your sex life, so make sure you add a flirty element to your activities to avoid making them platonic.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being flirty and naughty with the person you married, more so if you need to up the intimacy level of your relationship. Be comfortable making private jokes with each other and practice knowing glances. Before long, you don’t need any more extra effort to bring the fun back in the sack.
