Do you remember when you used to dream about how wonderful it would be to get married? Of course, marriage is wonderful… but not all of the time. There will be times when marriage will seem like hard work, and there may even be times when leaving will look like a better option. Marriage can have its ups and downs, and successful marriage is only possible if both parties are willing to work at it. They should nurture love if they want to keep it from going stale.
Has your marriage gone stale? Have you stopped spending the time that is necessary to cultivate a relationship that is fulfilling? If this is the case – read on. Here are eight tips that could help make your marriage go from boring to infinitely fascinating.
- Forgive. Disagreements are only natural in any relationship. Wherever two people are living near, there are bound to be times when they disagree. Learning to forgive and not hold grudges is vital to prevent bitterness from seeping in and souring things. People make mistakes and do stupid things. We need to be quick to say sorry and quick to forgive. Married couples must never harbor grudges. Besides, keeping grudges solves nothing.
- Be respectful and honest with one another. Don’t take one another for granted. Learn to say thank you. Express your appreciation for the things your spouse does for you. Tell the truth. If there is a problem, talk about it and don’t bottle it up. Couples who face their problems and talk things through are the ones that are most likely to build a strong, loving relationship.
- Remember to laugh often. The daily grind of life can make everything seem like a chore. A married couple should take time to share jokes and other crazy antics to decrease tension. Remember, laughter is healing.
- Communicate. It may seem obvious, but good communication is the key to a fulfilling relationship. Don’t let things fester. If the wife is upset by something her husband has said or done, she should tell him right away. She shouldn’t assume that he will guess what is wrong. What may be obvious to her, may not be obvious to him! Husbands, too, need to be more forthcoming in sharing what is on their minds. Good communication is vital.
- Decide together. Couples must make joint decisions on matters like finances, children’s education and upbringing, the delegation of household chores, etc. One must not be superior to the other. If you can’t reach an agreement straight away, leave it for a while and come back to it again later. If there is still a stalemate, be prepared to give in to your spouse. Take turns in giving in to one another. Marriage is not a competition.
- Don’t forget the simple, small things. Husbands need to remember to compliment their wives. Remember to praise her for a job well done. Buy her flowers. Take her out for a romantic meal. Tell her how beautiful she is. Make her feel like she is your princess. Wives should also be attentive to their husband’s needs. Enjoy each other’s company. Showing affection one for another is essential.
- Stay in love. Nurture your love for one another. Enjoy every discovery and every new day with your spouse.
- Stay intimate. Intimacy is only able to grow in a marriage where there is a strong commitment to one another. Learn to be honest with one another about what turns you on and what turns you off. The sexual side of marriage need not wane. Greater knowledge of your spouse and deeper affection should make love-making a celebration of your life together. Make time to be intimate.
Being married is not always easy, especially in our society where so many marriages fail. But as long as both partners know that they have each other to hold on to, it should be a rewarding relationship. Be there for each other, “For richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and till death do us part”.
